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Parents--teaching them new technology is a pain in the a--!

Discussion in 'Tech Talk - Gadgets, Gizmos and Technology' started by Lord Vader, Dec 15, 2011.

  1. Dec 15, 2011 #21 of 100
    Stewart Vernon

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    You know... Whether or not your mother is "lazy" is not the issue I see... You know your mom, and should know better IF this is who she is... So why on earth would you get mad at her for being who you already knew she was?

    If you knew she had an aversion to new technology... Why get her a phone that you already knew would be tough to get her to adapt to using?

    Sometimes the student is at fault for not learning the lesson... But often the teacher is not experienced enough as a teacher to know how to deliver that lesson OR know when a student doesn't have the prerequisites to be in the class.
     
  2. Dec 15, 2011 #22 of 100
    Herdfan

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    One nice thing about my M-I-L is that she can open an email and open an attachment. My B-I-L and I bought her a Mac Mini last year and any time she has issues or can't do something, I can just record the steps on my screen as a video and email it to her. Has really cut down on phone tech support. :)
     
  3. Dec 15, 2011 #23 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    This is not something that escaped me. In fact, it's an alternative that my father, sister, and I have discussed--will a Blackberry be easier to operate than an EPIC?

    Oh, BTW, one thing she said she "HAD" to have on her phone--Angry Birds. "What about Angry Birds? I want to be able to play Angry Birds on my phone!"

    I don't know if this is possible on a Blackberry. ;)
     
  4. Dec 15, 2011 #24 of 100
    Karen

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    My 95 year old mother insisted that she had to have an iPhone. We went to the AT&T store and got her one. Then, we went to Best Buy and bought a Sony clock radio that is an iPhone dock. I put a bunch of music on it for her that is from her generation and set up her contacts for her. She docks her iPhone on her clock radio every night and listens to music before she falls asleep. Her iPhone is charged and ready to go for the next day. I installed a Solitaire app on it for her and she is as happy as she can be. She even sent me a text the first night. I was in shock when I got it! <g> She said that whenever she gets bored or lonely, she picks up her iPhone and either calls someone or plays Solitaire. It's much easier for her to use than the flip phone she used to have.
     
  5. Dec 15, 2011 #25 of 100
    HDJulie

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    iPhone - so easy an old person can use it :)
     
  6. Dec 15, 2011 #26 of 100
    billsharpe

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    Wow! Your mother wins the prize in this thread and YOU deserve much of the credit.
     
  7. Dec 15, 2011 #27 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    This morning my mom calls me about a half-dozen times asking questions like, "How do I answer a phone?", "How to I delete a contact? I entered one in 4 times by accident?", "How do I change a ring tone?"

    I politely asked her if she read the user manual at all, because answering the phone is supposed to be among the simplest things to do. She replied, "No, I'm not going to read the manual."

    When I asked her if she remembered editing a contact yesterday when I explained it to her, she replied, "No. I can't remember these things. I can't learn this."

    There's little I can do if someone simply refuses to even read a manual.
     
  8. Dec 15, 2011 #28 of 100
    trh

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    Your dad probably made a mistake by getting something like this for your Mom. But you yelled at your elderly mother, called her lazy and then sent her to her room until she reads the manual. And you said she has zero patience? Life is to short. Enjoy your parents while they are still alive. Don't let something this trivial negatively impact your relationship with them.
     
  9. Dec 15, 2011 #29 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    I didn't "yell," per se; rather, I raised my voice a bit because she wouldn't stop bitching and let me get a word in edge-wise. Second, I never called her lazy. I'm doing that here. I didn't "send her to her room." I suggested she take the manual, go to her room, and read it. She usually retires to her bedroom every night around 8:00 p.m. to relax and get away from the rest of the household. I simply suggested that she take the manual and go to her room and peruse the little booklet not unlike books and magazines she reads.
     
  10. Dec 15, 2011 #30 of 100
    Christopher Gould

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    Vader I suggest you learn alot more patients. When your parents get older and start to slip you are not going to be able to "raise your voice" to them. They will need patients and care.

    Teaching them phones is nothing compared to dementia and the like. Aren't you suppose to be a school teacher?
     
  11. Dec 16, 2011 #31 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    I'm not a doctor; I needn't have any patients. That's not my concern.

    Only for camaraderie and friendship.
     
  12. Dec 16, 2011 #32 of 100
    Mark Holtz

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    Slight problem. They are liable to have passwords that are short and easy to guess. Insert words of doom here.
     
  13. Dec 16, 2011 #33 of 100
    armophob

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    I get it.
    My Dad in his 60's want's to be texting and facebooking to be in contact with my sister's kids. He is always quizzing me about it, and I keep telling him I have no idea because I neither do or care about it. He gets silent and I have to explain that technology is there for those who want it, it is not required. And I do not want to participate in these parts of it, because I feel it is a passing phase of the younger generation and will soon be replaced by something else that will avoid voice contact over a phone.
     
  14. Dec 16, 2011 #34 of 100
    billsharpe

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    I've been using computers since the 1960's. But I only got a cell phone earlier this year, mainly so I can connect with my wife when I pick her up at the airport after a trip.

    I have a pay as you go cell phone plan and still have about $45 left of my two $25 payments, each covering three months.

    She does text with our grandson; I haven't quite figured that out yet. Our various grandsons are the real tech gurus in the family.
     
  15. Dec 16, 2011 #35 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    The kids often are the smartest when it comes to new technology.
     
  16. Dec 16, 2011 #36 of 100
    Herdfan

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    You got that right. I think it is because they are not afraid of it. We got our daughter an iPod Nano for her 6th birthday. We were going on a vacation and thought it would be good to help her pass the time. (We chose the Nano because it had the ability for us to limit the loudness).

    Anyway, we handed it to her and without ever being shown how to work it (I had already loaded some of her music on it) and within a couple of minutes she was listening to her music.

    There was no fear that she would not be able to work it or was going to break it. Just grab it and go.
     
  17. Dec 16, 2011 #37 of 100
    djlong

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    Doesn't like a complicated phone but DOES want Angry Birds???

    Ouch..
     
  18. Dec 16, 2011 #38 of 100
    Lord Vader

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    Yup. Makes perfect sense, doesn't it?

    Today she called me to tell me she set up her voice mail and feels proud of that accomplishment. Good for her. I know the feeling when it comes to certain devices.

    "Slowly but surely--very slowly," she said to me.
     
  19. Dec 16, 2011 #39 of 100
    armophob

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  20. Dec 18, 2011 #40 of 100
    Mark Holtz

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    You have to love parents. When we were young, and wanted to give up on math, they told us to keep going. One of their proudest moments is watching us walk down the aisle to get our college degree. Yet, when we try to encourage them to practice safe computing habits such as "Don't use a single password on all your sites", and "Fluffy41 is NOT a secure password", they state emphatically that "You are making things complicated." Uh, hell no, I'm trying to make sure that your life savings isn't being ripped off.
     

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